In all the mess, and the crappy feelings, and the hard. He has been here.
He doesn't know what to say, or do. He wishes he could fix it, because he's a man. But he can't, and he knows it. But he is still here.
Last year, he was less present. Last year was a rough year. Work took so much from him that he didn't have much left over. Lately however, he has been better, and he has been helping me. So much.
There are times in marriage, when you are desperately in love with your husband. When he consumes you and you just like him. When you are so grateful for him. For the fact that you are his. There are times when that love doesn't come easy. When it is a choice. It requires much effort. There are times when you are mostly ships passing in the night. Each going their own way, with not much to bind you together.
Last year, we were ships a lot of the time. Sometimes we were warships. This past year taught me much about choice. About consciously choosing to love, and respect and take care of my husband, regardless of whether or not I wanted to.
But right now? I am so grateful for my marriage and my husband. I am grateful for the good times and the bad times that we have weathered. And I am grateful for him. For so many bits of him, that are really quite lovely. I am grateful that he loves me. I am glad that I am his and he is mine.
Linking up with Jess today :)
that is so true - I have learned that if you treat your hubby the way you want to be treated it will be reflected straight back to you!
ReplyDeleteThis is beautiful babe. Good job mr teaspoon man. ;)
ReplyDeleteThat is lovely! He is lucky to have you. Rachel xx
ReplyDeleteAnother beautiful post. I think this is true of many marriages. I know I sometimes have to remind myself of what a catch my husband is, and be grateful for him and all we have together.
ReplyDeleteI can relate, I have to be much nicer to my husband this year. I no longer can use the newborn/tired excuse. Thanks for giving me food for thought! Emily
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ReplyDeleteRemember these thoughts when your kids hit the turbulent teen years and THEY are the cause of all the disharmony, disagreements and discord in your home!!!! I speak from experience!!! The only time we fight now is from KIDS!
Lovely Robyn. I think our marriages are so much better when we remind ourselves how blessed we are!
ReplyDeleteWonderful post. Much of marriage is learning to weather the rough times and know that the good times will come. It's lovely that you're feeling that gratefulness now.
ReplyDeleteThank you for commenting on my post because it led me to yours.
ReplyDeleteI can really relate to what you have published here. So true. We, personally, have rough patches but we get through them... Eventually.
Your post articulates this aspect of marriage beautifully.
SO true. I believe most couples that make it long term are good at understanding this. We come together with chemistry, we stay together with patience and this type of wisdom. Visiting from #teamIBOT
ReplyDeleteWhat a great post - I may just have to book mark it so that I can keep coming back to it when my husband is being so good to me and I am not being as nice back to him !!!!!!
ReplyDeleteYou are right - marriage takes working at - it isn't easy - but it is so worth it if it is with the right person !!
Have the best day !
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"This last year, we were ships a lot of the time. Sometimes we were warships. This past year taught me much about choice. About consciously choosing to love, and respect and take care of my husband, regardless of whether or not I wanted to."
ReplyDeleteYes, just yes a thousand times.
You write so eloquently little sister... I love you.
Beautiful. Love your ships/warships comment. It happens sometimes, doesn't it? Then you get it back. Thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteLove this, esp the comments about ships and choice. Thanks for the reminder :)
ReplyDeleteBeautiful post. x
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