tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1074997366425469301.post6800305535499429847..comments2024-03-08T20:28:32.531+10:00Comments on Slightly more depth than a teaspoon: Deep thoughts....robynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04351462075778087291noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1074997366425469301.post-65924582836421021012011-10-14T01:55:25.440+10:002011-10-14T01:55:25.440+10:00I really enjoyed this post too Robyn.... and can e...I really enjoyed this post too Robyn.... and can empathise with some of your sentiments. It's great you are learning this stuff in your 20's.... believe me it's much harder to be learning it in your 40's like I am!Janethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07556532535636828054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1074997366425469301.post-20859889284968649982011-10-11T20:47:56.410+10:002011-10-11T20:47:56.410+10:00Thanks for all the comments! Emma- you wrote a who...Thanks for all the comments! Emma- you wrote a whole essay there :) Don't worry, it wasn't patronizing. It's nice to get feedback and know that I'm not just talking to myself! Thanks for what you said :)robynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04351462075778087291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1074997366425469301.post-37012079500324475062011-10-11T15:44:42.877+10:002011-10-11T15:44:42.877+10:00This was a really good post. I think pretty much a...This was a really good post. I think pretty much all of us struggle with the same things from time to time.<br />I know this is a bit depressing to hear, but I think the first few years as a young family are just unavoidably tough and there's not really a way around it. I imagine there are wonderful moments, but from what I've seen - not yet experienced obviously, though all that is about to change! - it's basically a hard slog. I'm bracing myself for it as much as I can, though I know it's still going to be one hell of a shock.<br />That's not to say you should suck it up and get on with things. I'm a big believer in having a wallow when things get nigh on unbearable, then having a chat about it with the husband, and then trying to get in a frame of mind where I can get on with it. I'm sure it will get better at some point.<br />And is there some way you can get a break now and then, to take some time out for yourself? After all, everyone does need and deserve some 'me time'.<br />What I do know from experience (almost 10 years of it) is that marriage is bloody tough. Tough enough itself at times without the added pressure of parenthood. Sometimes it feels like you just have to find the strength or means to be able to ride it out and trust better times are ahead. So I think you're on the right track with your faith, and turning to it to help you find that strength, or perspective, or whatever it is that helps.<br />And I don't blame you for getting your back up if hubby gets a bit questioning about your parenting. I would too! I might be a bit militant about this sort of thing, but the way I see it is that while ever he is working the way he is, it means you guys have pretty much decided that his job is the one outside home, and yours is the one at home. That's not to say he doesn't have a right to opinions and input - or that it gives him a completely free pass from all the housework/jobs around home! - but you are the one doing it day after day (and night after night) and, as you say, you know your daughter and what works for her, so ultimately it's your decision how things are done. It's not like you tell him how to do his job (at least, I doubt you would).<br />As for not earning money, I get where you're coming from with that. I think our culture is to blame. It's commendable to have one that encourages us to do our bit, but such a shame that it seems to focus on money. Because what you are doing is incredibly important too. But still, irrational as it is, sometimes you can't help feeling like you have to work twice as hard because you're not earning the money. Bloody hard when you have a husband working the crazy hours yours does!<br />And please don't take this as a condescending thing, because that's not my intent, but remember you are still quite young - though you strike me as being very mature. What I mean here is that the 20s can be hard too. So much to figure out! I've still got a lot to learn, but I do feel much more satisfied, and simply comfortable with myself and life, I guess, compared to 10 years ago. Tell me to bugger off if it feels like I'm being patronising!<br />I could go on and on about all this kind of stuff, but have probably said enough and bored you senseless by now, so will leave it :)<br />Fingers crossed brighter times are just around the corner though xxEmmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17640012807910462885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1074997366425469301.post-27928219013250875132011-10-11T07:07:03.620+10:002011-10-11T07:07:03.620+10:00Thanks for sharing this. I too am struggling to fi...Thanks for sharing this. I too am struggling to figure out what's fair to expect my husband to do- he does work a full time job, and that's hard. I don't want to be one of those wives who is controlling and demanding...and yet, I work too, surely all the housework and child rearing shouldn't be up to me? <br /><br />I also get what you mean about feeling like you get a big fat nothing in response from God. My baby won't sleep at the moment, I throw up my arms and beg God to send him to sleep so I can get some myself- and he stays awake for another few hours. I'm trying to pray instead for God's energy and patience...but golly it's hard.<br /><br />Once again, a fantastic post- thank you!Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07648204470712239011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1074997366425469301.post-55246604650130538592011-10-10T21:05:58.451+10:002011-10-10T21:05:58.451+10:00I can identify with a lot of your sentiments. I do...I can identify with a lot of your sentiments. I do a lot of the parenting myself, due to my husband's work commitments. The thing that I'm slowly learning to work out is to tell him how I'm feeling, because he can't read my mind. Thanks for being honest, and make sure you can take some time for yourself.Debbiehttp://aspiremum.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1074997366425469301.post-63180414037646619292011-10-10T20:47:51.164+10:002011-10-10T20:47:51.164+10:00Thanks for this post Robyn. I appreciate the "...Thanks for this post Robyn. I appreciate the "telling it like it is". And, I know the temptation to turn to our husbands to fulfil our needs, rather than turning to God. This is a good reminder.Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11079013668348426944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1074997366425469301.post-90549675564762322512011-10-10T19:58:52.337+10:002011-10-10T19:58:52.337+10:00Make sure you take some time for you, Robyn. So ve...Make sure you take some time for you, Robyn. So very important. But I get this. I really do. xxKellie @ Three Li'l Princesseshttp://www.threelilprincesses.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1074997366425469301.post-57716348283743498442011-10-10T17:16:30.487+10:002011-10-10T17:16:30.487+10:00It sounds like life is pretty full on for you at t...It sounds like life is pretty full on for you at the moment!!!! Make sure you remember to look after you too!!!Footprints Australiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17623190578935913157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1074997366425469301.post-30739008390737134402011-10-10T15:11:56.894+10:002011-10-10T15:11:56.894+10:00So true Robyn. We do get so wound up caring for th...So true Robyn. We do get so wound up caring for the kids, we expect our husbands to look after us, when it's a too way street.<br /><br />I don't think this was at all disrespectful to Shane. It was beautifully honest, and real.<br />And I hope your back feels better soon.EssentiallyJesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02372695554793237026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1074997366425469301.post-71908070338851643022011-10-10T09:31:44.556+10:002011-10-10T09:31:44.556+10:00This is a good post, lots of food for thought! Tha...This is a good post, lots of food for thought! Thanks Robyn xAmyQhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05616178540242880859noreply@blogger.com